This is the words that always comes out of many men or women mouth, who want to divorce their wives or husband; most time they put several reasons as the yardstick for the divorce like, “My wife/husband is guilty of adultery (almost universally); desertion; habitual drunkenness; conviction of a felony and
most commonly used by divorcing parties, are “cruel and inhuman treatment”. The question is, Can you still remember when you started? If yes, there is no need for divorce but if no you personally have problem(s).
God ordained marriage from the Garden of Eden with the first Man and Woman (Adam and Eve), they both lived together without disannulling which is God’s plan for them, and they lived for several years with their children happily. When it came to the time of Moses, the people who already mingled themselves with the Egyptian who do not understand the true God at that time, now began to practice the life style of the Egyptian; at the time they left Egypt, their mind and attention and affection were still there, that is why they requested for permission to divorce their wives based on the ground of adultery and must be certificated. Also the law Num. 5:11-31 prescribed that the suspected wife should be tried by the ordeal of the "water of jealousy". In Leviticus 20:10, 'The man who commits adultery with another man's wife, he who commits adultery with his neighbor's wife, the adulterer and the adulteress, shall surely be put to death. Deut. 22:22, "If a man is found lying with a woman married to a husband, then both of them shall die-the man that lay with the woman, and the woman; so you shall put away the evil from Israel. If this exit, why then will they talk about divorce when the law says, any caught in adultery should be put to death. If at this period of the law people still talk about divorcing on the ground of adultery then, they were committing it secretly and thus, if not proved, divorce cannot stand. Or some were feared or given preferential treatment to be above the law which was not true; Jesus understood this that is why He said in Matt 5:32 "Furthermore it has been said, 'Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce”. They were bent on divorcing their wife for selfish reason(s) and not for adultery. Before any one post the idea of divorce, it means that, person is already eyeing someone at the corner.
In the days of Jesus, Jesus clearly says in Matt 19:8, "He said to them, "Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so". and in Matt. 5:32, "But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.(KJV)
In Matt. 19: 3 - Jesus did not even support remarriage after divorce on the ground of fornication but outrightly says, such person must remain unmarried if not reconcile to your spouse. Read this story of the woman caught in adultery in Matt 19:3 - 9
3. The Pharisees also came to Him, testing Him, and saying to Him, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just any reason?"
4. And He answered and said to them, "Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning 'made them male and female,
5 "and said, 'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'
6 "So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.
7 They said to Him, "Why then did Moses command to give a certificate of divorce, and to put her away?
8 He said to them, "Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so.
9 "And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery."
Today, do people only divorce because of adultery? No! Men and women posed list of reasons why they needed divorce as enumerated above.
Apostle Paul also added in 1 Cor. 7: 10, 11 saying, "Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife."
The only ways to sustainable marriage are as follows:
God ordained marriage from the Garden of Eden with the first Man and Woman (Adam and Eve), they both lived together without disannulling which is God’s plan for them, and they lived for several years with their children happily. When it came to the time of Moses, the people who already mingled themselves with the Egyptian who do not understand the true God at that time, now began to practice the life style of the Egyptian; at the time they left Egypt, their mind and attention and affection were still there, that is why they requested for permission to divorce their wives based on the ground of adultery and must be certificated. Also the law Num. 5:11-31 prescribed that the suspected wife should be tried by the ordeal of the "water of jealousy". In Leviticus 20:10, 'The man who commits adultery with another man's wife, he who commits adultery with his neighbor's wife, the adulterer and the adulteress, shall surely be put to death. Deut. 22:22, "If a man is found lying with a woman married to a husband, then both of them shall die-the man that lay with the woman, and the woman; so you shall put away the evil from Israel. If this exit, why then will they talk about divorce when the law says, any caught in adultery should be put to death. If at this period of the law people still talk about divorcing on the ground of adultery then, they were committing it secretly and thus, if not proved, divorce cannot stand. Or some were feared or given preferential treatment to be above the law which was not true; Jesus understood this that is why He said in Matt 5:32 "Furthermore it has been said, 'Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce”. They were bent on divorcing their wife for selfish reason(s) and not for adultery. Before any one post the idea of divorce, it means that, person is already eyeing someone at the corner.
In the days of Jesus, Jesus clearly says in Matt 19:8, "He said to them, "Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so". and in Matt. 5:32, "But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.(KJV)
In Matt. 19: 3 - Jesus did not even support remarriage after divorce on the ground of fornication but outrightly says, such person must remain unmarried if not reconcile to your spouse. Read this story of the woman caught in adultery in Matt 19:3 - 9
3. The Pharisees also came to Him, testing Him, and saying to Him, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just any reason?"
4. And He answered and said to them, "Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning 'made them male and female,
5 "and said, 'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'
6 "So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.
7 They said to Him, "Why then did Moses command to give a certificate of divorce, and to put her away?
8 He said to them, "Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so.
9 "And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery."
Today, do people only divorce because of adultery? No! Men and women posed list of reasons why they needed divorce as enumerated above.
Apostle Paul also added in 1 Cor. 7: 10, 11 saying, "Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife."
The only ways to sustainable marriage are as follows:
- Husband you must love your wife unconditionally irrespective of the characters she is putting on.
- You must provide for her by meeting her needs both physically, spiritually, mentally, emotionally, sexually and otherwise.
- You must protect her against any attacks from within and outside.
- You must be with her all the time to feel your presence and protective arms.
- You must satisfy her sexually to avoid adultery.
- Don’t compare your wife to any woman.
The woman must obey her husband in everything without restriction. - She must submit in every way to her husband, e.g. sexually, financially.
- She must respect her husband to the call even if the husband do not have any thing per say.
- She must not usurp authority from her husband posing to be the husband, even if she has influence, popularity, fame and wealth more than the husband.
- She must not be too demanding but consider the resources of the man.
- Don’t compare your husband with any man.
Everyone must play his/her role in the marriage home. - She must not sell her husband out by telling people how bad her husband is at home; note those you are telling have their own problems too, and some are even envying you if you don’t know.
Having said these, if you still want to divorce your wife, you need deliverance. Remember God said in Matt. 19:6, “What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder”. The words “let not man” is a powerful word, which means, let no one born of a woman or constituted authority, tradition, family and culture put asunder. If you do God will judge.
If you are at the verge of divorcing your wife or husband, repent and have a good mind toward your husband or wife, change your attitudes, put in love and everything will change for good.
The way to go about Divorce
if you still bent on going on divorce, the way to go about it are as follows;
- Print invitation card as you did when you were about marrying.
- Invite all that were in your marriage the day you married either dead or alive they must all be present.
- Both of you shared drink and cola of prayer, these you must vomit to break the prayer and marriage covenant.
- Then go back to the church or court where you were prayed for at the first time.
- The Pastor who prayed for you or the Judge who prayer for you must be present to do the divorce prayer
- After these are accomplished, then you can go ahead and divorce.
- But if its not possible then, divorce is not also possible.
LET US PRAY
O Lord God,
My marriage is about dying,
Forgive me being the cause,
Come and heal my marriage,
Save my marriage,
Restore my marriage,
Restore my Husband/Wife
Bring us back again
Help me enjoy my marriage
And sustain my marriage for me
This I pray with thanks giving,
In Jesus mighty name, ‘AMEN’.
That prayer is working already, believe, and start playing your part as a husband or as a wife; I live you in the hand of God, stay cool in Him.
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