Introduction
In our world today, every body want to be heard and known both at home and out side our home, at the place of work even when they didn’t even do what will warrant or what will make him to be known. Some propagate themselves to be who they are not while others are known just because of what they are and what they are up to.
Every body can not be known because every body is not the same even if they are identical twins. More so, there are some people works that will naturally bring them out and make them known while people’s works are secrete and these secrete works are more meaningful than the public works and yet they are not
popular as others whose works are not even meaningful while others force themselves on people to make them known.
To be popular is good but if don’t have the stamina to be, don’t just make effort to be because the resultant effect is dangerous that the benefits you may think.
Popularity can lead you to the place of honour and can also bring you to your early grave; your attitude toward it will determine where it will lead you to.
Definition
From the word popular we have popularity. Popular means, ‘Appealing to or appreciated by a wide range of people’. Microsoft Encarta 2009, Microsoft Corporation. All rights reserved. Prevalent or current among the general public. Oxford Talking Dictionary. Copyright © 1998 The Learning Company, Inc. All Rights Reserved
Fact of being well liked: Admiration, approval, or acceptance of somebody or something by people in general or by a group of people; Demand for something: The desire or demand for something such as a manufactured product. Microsoft Encarta 2009, Microsoft Corporation. All rights reserved.
Political, Moral, and Miscellaneous Thoughts and Reflections, "Of Ambition"
The action or practice of cultivating popular favour; The fact or condition of being favoured, beloved, or admired by the people, or by a particular group of people.
The quality or state of being popular, especially the state of being widely admired, accepted, or sought after. The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth Edition copyright ©2000 by Houghton Mifflin Company.
Popularity is the quality of being well-liked or common, or having a high social status. Popularity figures are an important part of many people's personal value systems and form a vital component of success in people-oriented fields such as management, politics, and entertainment, among others. Wikipedia Online Dictionary, Wikimedia Foundation, Inc.
WHY DO PEOPLE WANT TO BE POPULAR?
There are different reasons why many will want to be popular, and these reasons are peculiar to some individual while some are general reasons. Let’s consider some of these reasons.
They want to be known by every one.
They want to show good face
For appointment or nomination reason
So that they will be consider for any incentive.
To gain entrance to people / offices
So that they / their product will sell in the market
For guile purpose
For them to be able to carry out their evil plans
In all let God publish you instead of you publishing yourself.
WHAT DO I DO TO BE POPULAR?
What do all popular people have in common? Do they all wear the same clothes? Have the same hair? Say the same things? Of course not. There are popular people all over the world, enjoying their social status at school, work, and wherever they go. They don’t all looks or act like each other, but all do share one very crucial characteristic: people skills. May be they were born with them, or may be they learned them from their family; however, they got them, they have them, and may be you feel like you don't. Here's how to develop your people skills and start being the popular kid around your school!
Create an objective.
It is great to have a friend. If becoming popular is your goal, you need to know how you will get to know that you are popular. Is it when all your colleagues come to know your name? Or will you consider yourself popular when passers by wave at you?
Understand the methods of successful people.
Once you have your objective clearly in your mind, proceed to check who is popular in that particular area and what they are doing. These people take steps that the not-so-popular guys are not taking. Example: One manager is known for his good communication with clients. How does he do that? He makes all his presentations very simple. He is ready with his suggestions and spends time understanding the client’s real needs. These are a few things that he does which most of the other managers do not do.
Do what you know best
You can only be popular if people know you by what you do best; your work will speak / advertised you without you knowing. Be specialist of a particular thing.
Be Confident.
Everyone has some flaws. Don't let that stop you! Even if you feel that you just aren't good, keep believing. Love yourself and believe in yourself. Don't sit in the corner. Get up, and get into the spot light. Don't worry too much about yourself. Get some courage!
Be willing to step out of your comfort zone.
If you're not popular, it's because you're not comfortable doing the things that popular people tend to do, making conversation, cracking jokes, flirting, and in general, engaging people. You might be introspective, shy, or quiet, but in order to get what you want, you need to change how you interact with people. At first, that might feel like you're being shallow or fake, but remember that being yourself is, at its core, is all about knowing what you truly want out of life. There's nothing wrong with wanting to be on good terms with most people (which is what popularity really is). To be popular, you need to take a few chances (on a social level) that normally feel uncomfortable (perhaps terrifying) to you. So be prepared to be bold.
Be friendly.
Popular people are on friendly terms with pretty much with everyone; not only their peers, but also the teachers, the supervisors, the grocery store clerk, the janitor, the parents, the kids, and generally anyone who's even the tiniest bit nice. (The only people you can not be friendly with are the ones who are practically impossible to get along with.) They're on good enough terms that they can hold a short, friendly conversation with anyone in the room. There's no reason you can't do that, too. Talk to anyone and everyone who crosses your path. Smile, say hello, and if they greet you back, ask them how they're doing. No matter where you go, make it a habit to chat with strangers and acquaintances alike, even if it's just for a few minutes.
Have good style.
No one wants to follow a person who has a bad fashion sense. If you can't afford brand names, shop at stores that still have cool clothes at an affordable price (e.g. charming CHARLIE, Target, Aeropostale, American Eagle, Bend down Boutique, Help me Select etc.) If you want your own signature style, buy from all stores and mix & match. Everyone loves a person who has no fear when it comes to fashion. Keep it casual. Small talk is all about sticking to "safe" topics. Stay away from anything controversial, like religion or politics topic you have no idea of. By expressing your views on a controversial topic, you're bound to be unpopular with people who disagree. Keep the topics "light". Be polite. Respect people's privacy; don't pry. Learn to read body language so you can see when your questions are starting to make them feel uncomfortable. Don't invite yourself anywhere, don't brag, and don't interrupt. In other words, don't be annoying.
Stop thinking about yourself
Of all the people skills that popular individuals have, the one that none of them can do without is empathy. How well do you relate to other people? If you're so caught up in how they perceive you that you don't consider how they feel, then, you're being self-absorbed not in that cocky, obnoxious sort of way, but still, your thoughts are revolving around you. Stop worrying so much about how you look, how you sound, how you compare, and start thinking about how other people are doing. Don't try to act interesting to get other people's attention; act as interested in them. Ask them how work or school is going, how their family is doing, how that situation they mentioned a while back turned out, and so on. Then relate. Talk to them about how you or someone you know had something similar happen to them, and how they dealt with it. Find common ground.
Give a helping hand.
Popular people don't just know everyone, but they're on good terms with everyone. They establish those terms by helping people out, and they don't do it in particularly noticeable ways (they're not the martyrs or saints of society). They do little things to establish rapport (in addition to some big things, like volunteering services). They offer someone a pencil when they need it. They close the neighbor's gate when it opens after a strong wind. They hold the door open and wait for the person behind them. But most often, they listen to people when they talk, and they offer to help some how. If you truly empathize with people, you'll want things to work out for them. If there's nothing you can do to help then, at the very least, let them know that you're hoping the best for them. Here are some phrases that you'll often hear popular people saying: "Well, I hope things work out. If you need anything, just call me, OK? "Whoa”, that's crazy. I can't believe he did that. Do you want me to talk to him for you?" "Yeah! I definitely want to go check that out. Do you want us to go there together? We can split the gas that way.
Be Yourself.
It may sound trite, but popular people live out this popular phrase. You might think that in order to be popular, you need to be attractive and talented, but while it's true that those qualities are more likely to make you a hit with people--there are extremely popular people who are otherwise quite average, and there are extremely good-looking and talented people who are any thing but popular. Remember, the only thing you need in order to be popular is a good set of people skills--the remainder is all yours to mold as you see fit, regardless of what anyone else thinks.
Don't try too hard.
Surprisingly, many "popular" people don't put too much conscious effort into it. They simply are themselves. If you're desperate to be popular, it will show in your actions, and people will think you're a poser, or worse, a freak. It helps if you find a group of friends that shares your interests, whom you can easily be yourself around. Then as you become more and more accustomed to hanging out with people, you can branch out and start talking to different people. But don't abandon your old friends!
Dress like you means it.
Being popular is being dressed like you mean it. Most popular people wear those expensive, rare clothes 'imported from Singapore', but it's easier to dress like yourself. Most people don't like people who wear flashy clothes, but they also don't like people who look like they've just finished rolling in the mud. Be yourself! Remember to dress accordingly too, being popularity doesn't mean dressing yourself in a Sweater with Jeans in 00 degree weather!
Know that this is some thing you grow into and not overnight.
So you need to start with the attitude/ personality. There's no point putting your hand up in lessons, because that's nerdy- the complete opposite to cool. However, if the teacher does ask you a question, saying "No" or "I don't know" will not only make you look dumb, but it will make you look like a slacker, and someone who doesn't give a damn about their life.
Home life should be pretty simple.
Avoid telling your parents to bog off, butt out, etc. It is offensive, and might cause you to get grounded. Be careful about what you do and say.
Try to cut / fix your hair.
Parents may restrict this, but whatever, you're cool. Trying colourful (non-permanent) hair extensions is a risky idea, cut your hair shot and not be bushy; so just go for some coppy bangs, side fringe and lots of hair spray. Coon tails can be a good idea too and a cute flippy fun bunyas well.
Accessorize.
Loads of cool accessory shops can provide colorful, costume jewelry, and they can always provide good gift ideas for your friends.
Look approachable
Don’t raise yourself so high that you can not be reachable, but humble yourself and make yourself available so that all can reach your. Be pleasant because, Pleasant people are joy to be around with, people who always walk around like dogs just died away. Give peace a chance to warm up to you. If you can not say any thing nice don’t say any thing at all. That might sound like some thing you hear from your grand-mother but it a good advice. http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Popular
QUOTE
Popularity is a crime from the moment it is sought; it is only a virtue where men have it whether they will or no. George Savile Halifa, Microsoft Encarta 2009, Microsoft Corporation. All rights reserved
THOSE WHO GAINS POPULARITY
Those who gains popularity are numerous and these is as a result of what they are into or their hand works and hard works. These includes pastors, musicians, politicians, hospitable people, actors and actress, orators, Sportsmanship / sportswoman ship, and any other professional workers. All these gain popularity if they do their works well if not, they may not be popular.
MERIT OF POPULARITY
Popularity has incentive attached, the incentives are numerous but I will mention few here. Some of which are
Almost every body knows you
Almost every one is your friend directly or indirectly.
You are favored by almost every body.
Your popularity will always grant you access to many place you would have be able to reach in your life time.
Your popularity will also bring your family to lime light.
Your popularity will brings you before kings
Your popularity will give you boldness
Your popularity can bring you contracts.
Your popularity will speak on your behalf.
Your popularity will makes the people choice
DEMERIT OF POPULARITY
Any thing that has an advantage also has disadvantage; so therefore the following are the demerit of popularity.
It expose you to danger
It makes many whom you are more advantageous than to be angry with you without you knowing.
It will make you feel you have arrived and that will lead to failure.
It will make you feel over confidence and will make you feel you cannot fail any more.
It will make you step into people’s toes
It will make you look down on those you feel they are under you because they are not as popular as you are.
It will make you spend more than you ought to.
To maintain status quo, your dressing may become dandy or foggy
You may become too proud to forget the purpose of life.
You may become occultist because you will want your popularity to increase.
PEOPLE WHO MADE THEMSELVES POPULAR
There are many people who made themselves popular and the end of the day, they regretted ever becoming popular, if they have remain where they are without forcing themselves into people they would have lived longer and enjoy their life better; some of these persons are President Sani Abacha of Nigeria, Chief Abiola of Yoroba one time duly elected president of Nigeria but never sit on the presidential seat, Okotoko of Owerri, Idi-Ami of Uganda,
PEOPLE WHO WERE ONCE POPULAR
There are people who were one time popular but today they are no more or the value people have for them before have fade away. As at this time, what you hear about them its not to be compared to their former state of popularity. Mr. Sosoliso, IBB of Nigeria,
PEOPLE WHO WERE AND ARE STILL POPULAR
Former President Bill Clinton of America, former President Nelson Mandela of South Africa, Baba Obasanjo (OBJ) the former president of Nigeria, Fela the famous musician, Arc-Bishop Benson Idahosa, Dr. Oral Robert, Best Ogedegbe, Daniel Omokachi, Jaguar the actor / comedian, Governor Fashola, Barrister Delegiwa etc.
THE INFLUENCE OF POPULARITY OVER THE INDIVIDUAL
Popularity has great influence over the person for there is the level you will get to that, if you don’t take care, you will be overcome by popularity. Because the big guys will want to always associate with, whom you did not know who they are, just because you want to keep their company, you may be asked to join their cults from which they gained their popularity, this you will do to keep going.
Because you don’t want to be reframed from getting to where you intend reaching, you may now involve in killing any that will obstruct your way.
Because you wished to remain popular, the ways of the heathens may now be your choice.
Because you want to remain popular, whatever people asked you to do that will be your primary choice just because you want to please them and not God.
To keep you popular and remain outstanding, you will involve in oppressing and suppressing people who are coming up just because you don’t want any to over ride you.
Because of your popularity, those who will be attracted to you will include cultic people, killers, harlots, idolaters, sorcerers, divinatory, smokers, drunkard etc. these will definitely influence you to a great extent and as you know bad communication corrupts good manner; my friend be warned.
ADVICE TO POPULAR AND THOSE WHO ARE SEEKING POPULARITY.
Don’t pursue popularity but live in obedient to the perfect will of God and God will raise you at the due time. Popularity grows, don’t force yourself into it, if you do, you may die before your God given time.
Remember, in the days of Popularity, remember God! If you do, God will stabilize you but if you do not, great will be your fall. In the Bible book of Ecclesiastics 12:1, it say, “Remember now thy Creator in the days of thy youth, while the evil days come not, nor the years draw nigh, when thou shall say, I have no pleasure in them”.
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